Qu'est ce que l'am?

[fox666]

Une petite question...
Faut croire que l'on se la pose encore..Donc je lance le débat et je vous demande votre avis. L'am, pour vous, c'est quoi (coups ou brulures et coupures), qu'est ce que ca implique et aussi le pourquoi (ex: exprimer un mal-etre, ressentir qqch) et tout ce qui a rapport avec ca. Quels sont les limites à appeller ca de l'am. Qu'est ce qui y est relié, pour vous, sans en etre (ex: tatoo). Vous pouvez vous appuyer sur des sites et tout mais je veux surtout votre avis personnel. Alors, l'am, c'est quoi?

[Azerty]

J'avais déjà posté un topic sur ce sujet, si quelques réponses peuvent t'intéresser

http://blessuressecretes.free.fr/forum/ ... .php?t=466

[fox666]

Merci pour le lien.
Mais je me dis que meme si ca a deja été répondu, on ne s,est jamais vraiment attardé sur le sujet et comme parfois on change notre vision des choses, ce pourrait etre interressant de refaire l'exercice, non?

[Ysilne]

oups, j'avais pas vu ce sujet, je viens de poster des definitions dans le sujet sur le piercing. Je file recopier ici, où ca a plus sa place.

Donc, des extraits de definitions de "specialistes", et mon résumé :

Broadly speaking, self-injury is the act of attempting to alter a mood state by inflicting physical harm serious enough to cause tissue damage to your body. This can include cutting (with knives, razors, glass, pins, any sharp object), burning, hitting your body with an object or your fists, hitting a heavy object (like a wall), picking at skin until it bleeds, biting yourself, pulling your hair out, etc. The most commonly seen forms are cutting, burning, and headbanging. "Tissue damage" usually refers to damage that tears, bruises, or burns the skin -- something that causes bleeding or marks that don't go away in a few minutes. A mood state can be positive or negative, or even neither; some people self-injure to end a dissociated or unreal-feeling state, to ground themselves and come back to reality.

It's not self-injury if your primary purpose is:

sexual pleasure
body decoration
spiritual enlightenment via ritual
fitting in or being cool

The sort of self-injury this site discusses is repetitive self-harm. People learn that hurting themselves brings them relief from some kinds of distress and turn to it as a primary coping mechanism.

Calling it self-mutilation often angers people who self-injure. Other terms (self-inflicted violence, self-harm, self-injury) don't speak to motivation. They simply describe the behavior. "Self-mutilation" implies falsely that the primary intent is to mark or maim the body, and in most cases this isn't so.

If you cause physical harm to your body in order to deal with overwhelming feelings, know that you have nothing to be ashamed of. It's likely that you're keeping yourself alive and maintaining psychological integrity with the only tool you have right now. It's a crude and ultimately self-destructive tool, but it works; you get relief from the overwhelming pain/fear/anxiety in your life. The prospect of giving it up may be unthinkable, which makes sense; you may not realize that self-harm isn't the only or even best coping method around.

For many people who self-injure, though, there comes a breakthrough moment when they realize that change is possible, that they can escape, that things can be different. They begin to believe that other tools do exist and begin figuring out which of these non-self-destructive ways of coping work for them. This site exists to help you come closer to that moment.

How do you know if you self-injure? It may seem an odd question to some, but a few people aren't sure if what they do is "really" self-injury. Answer these questions:
Do you deliberately cause physical harm to yourself to the extent of causing tissue damage (breaking the skin, bruising, leaving marks that last for more than an hour)?
Do you cause this harm to yourself as a way of dealing with unpleasant or overwhelming emotions, thoughts, or situations (including dissociation)?
If your self-harm is not compulsive, do you often think about SI even when you're relatively calm and not doing it at the moment?

If you answer #1 and #2 yes, you are a self-injurer. If you answer #3 yes, you are most likely a repetitive self-injurer. The way you choose to hurt yourself could be cutting, hitting, burning, scratching, skin-picking, banging your head, breaking bones, not letting wounds heal, among others. You might do several of these. How you injure yourself isn't as important as recognizing that you do and what it means in your life.

The first step in classifying self-harm, as demonstrated by Favazza (1996), is to sort out what makes a type of self-injury pathological, as opposed to culturally-sanctioned. Socially sanctioned self-harm, he found, falls into two groups: rituals and practices. Body modification (piercings, tattoos, etc) can fall into either class.

Rituals are distinguished from practices in that they reflect community tradition, usually have deep underlying symbolism, and represent a way for an individual to connect to the community. Rituals are done for purposes of healing (mostly in primitive cultures), expressions of spirituality and spiritual enlightenment, and to mark place in the social order. Practices, on the other hand, have little underlying meaning to the practitioners and are sometimes fads. Practices are done for purposes of ornamentation, showing identification with a particular cultural group, and in some cases, for perceived medical/hygienic reasons.

...the commission of deliberate harm to one's own body. The injury is done to oneself, without the aid of another person, and the injury is severe enough for tissue damage (such as scarring) to result. Acts that are committed with conscious suicidal intent or are associated with sexual arousal are excluded.

Mon résumé :
l'AM c'est se faire mal sans l'intervention d'un tiers, au point d'abimer des parties de son corps (garder une trace au moins 10 min, que ce soit des bleus, des coupures ou autres). Ce n'est pas fait dans un but esthetique, sexuel (masochisme), social (être "in", integrer un groupe,etc) ou religieux/spirituel. L'AM est pratiquée afin de se debarrasser de sentiments (dissociation, tristesse, colere, culpabilité, ou meme des sentiments positifs).

[Selenite]

l'AM c'est se faire mal sans l'intervention d'un tiers, au point d'abimer des parties de son corps (garder une trace au moins 10 min, que ce soit des bleus, des coupures ou autres). Ce n'est pas fait dans un but esthetique [...]

Sans l'intervention d'un tiers , je suis d'accord avec toi puisque c'est "auto" , mais je sais que personnellement il m'arrive parfois de tout faire pour qu'on me fasse mal .
J'ai des amis avec qui je me bats pour jouer mais avec pour seul but qu'ils me frappent, mordent, blessent. Ce n'est pas de l'am à proprement parler mais c'est lié je pense, l'am m'a conduit à tout faire pour que d'autres me fassent mal.

Et pour ce qui est du but esthétique, ben j'ai déjà eu l'occasion de me faire mal parce que je trouvais que ma jambe était vide. J'allais mal ok, mais je recherchais des cicatrices pour me marquer plus profondément et je voulais que ça fasse "joli" .
Je suis d'accord que l'am n'est pas pour premier but l'esthétisme, mais il peut le devenir assez rapidement. On prend "gout" à la douleur, au sang, mais également aux cicatrices, à leur beauté plus ou moins grande. Je suis presque fiere de certaines de mes cicatrices que je trouve plus jolies que d'autres

[Léti]

Bonjour a tous,je sui nouvelle sur ce forum.
Dans mon cas,kan je m'AM c parce que je me sens vide ou anxieuse, quand le moral n'est pas au plus haut.
Je déteste ce sentiment de vide, et m'Am me fai du bien, me soulage. Couper mon corps, voir mon sang, ca me déten , c'est peut-être une facon de se sentir vivante, je ne sais pa trop, je cherche un peu les raisons.